Love & Relationships

Today's blog post shall be regarding the Topic on “To text him back or not“, I am sharing with you  coaching tips navigate texting during a new relationship. 

So, how do you show up as your confident, authentic, desirable self, not coming off too eager, but also not acting too cool for school—both of which could result in you pushing him further away? 

Keep reading ahead -

1. Pause-  Check in with yourself before you respond. Remember that an intentional response is better than a rushed Manner which can cause fear and insecurity. 

2. Observe- The uncomfortable feeling in your body— emotions such as insecurity, inadequacy, shame, and disappointment might crop up.

Noteworthy- Each and every person is integrated Differently - Thanks to our Precious Genetic integration / DNA's - A new partner can be a Sensitive and Deep thinking Introvert who actually prefers to assess Pros and Cons before taking the Leap whereas your previous Partners would have been more open and Extroverted in their approach.

3. Allow - Take some breaths and allow the negative sensations and emotions. As counter-intuitive as it feels, allowance moves you quicker through the discomfort, instead of resistance.

4. Ask yourself- “What am I thinking about not hearing from him for X number of hours?” Or, “What am I thinking about the words he just wrote?” Perhaps you think something like, “This isn’t good enough.”

  

5. Comprehend  -“What would you think about this text? How would you respond?” 

6.  Finally Respond as future self- Once stumped upon the Answer, 

Own your decision on what to say and when to respond from a place of confidence and self-love, whether you prefer to Continue with dating/ Communication.

~FINDING LOVE ~

Being Honest regarding you actual preference, and assess regarding your exceptions with the new Person.

Create space for the right person. Don’t fill it up with someone you know deep down isn’t showing up the way you ultimately want your person to.

Visualize yourself as High value Woman in her ideal relationship with set Boundaries BEFORE he arrives, it ensures what to say on a text exchange, you shall also start visualize yourself as high value woman in other areas of your life.

This is to say a few nights home alone instead of repeatedly saying yes to Mr. Unavailable, who pops up on a whim and scratches your loneliness itch for a  night. 

Growth is supposed to be uncomfortable, but when you lean in and keep your eye on the Gaining & Learning , You shall see that it was worth it in the end.

We’re human. Nobody is perfect. We all have blind spots, so a Coach or Therapist helps to show you how you’re getting in your own way with your thinking, if you can’t see it for yourself. 

Be mindful of the following which can hamper a budding courtship-

1. Connecting mostly via text messages.

2. Being overtly Secretive

3. 'Ghosting' majority of time or when required

4. Exhausted and Confused state of mind

5. Inability to convey and keep up deep conversations.

6. Repeated use of offensive language and cuss words.

7. Previous medical history of illness/medications which might be a trigger factor for such behaviors.

8.Constant Refusal For intimacy, Unseen Fear of getting Close.

Covering the spiritual aspect of the above pointers, these can easily manifest into Spiritual realm as Soulmate & Twin Flame connections where you usually come across such anxious state of mind. Your entire body is reacting to the strong vibrations and stimuli which in turn leaves you in a complete state of absurdities.

You thou shall never ignore these Red Flags so as to save yourself from Mental Exhaustion / undue violence in later stages of the Relationship. Also, Seek Professional Help as soon as you observe such Causative / Trigger factors.

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Keep Safe & Healthy.